- You are not obligated to look pretty
As women, we have these external pressures to present ourselves certain ways. By no means does this mean, this cannot impact men or any other gender but I think it does heavily impact women. These pressures are alive and well and just know that you do not have to abide by them if you do not want to.
- You do not have to shave to be more feminine
For some odd reason, it has been shameful for women to embrace their natural body hair. The hairs that naturally grow from our pores we are told to shave them, to get rid of it and often girls demean other girls for it which is absurd. These ideas are so buried within our subconscious that we believe that hairless is prettier, more appealing. Shaving our bodies allows for people to paint women as these delicate, untouched, hairless, fragile beings but we aren’t. We have flaws, bad skin sometimes, hairy legs, cellulite stretchmarks. These things exist and that is more than okay.
- You do not need makeup to be pretty, companies are thriving off of insecurities.
“If tomorrow, women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies, just think how many industries would go out of business.” One of my favorite quotes of all time accurately encompasses what this means. Almost any major company you can think of thrives off of making people feel bad about themselves to gain profit. They do not care about the effects of their belittlement, as long as they are getting money. And we feed into that so easily, don’t let these companies fool you into thinking you aren’t beautiful without makeup or anything extra. You bare self is enough on its own. Allows makeup to be for fun or something that makes you feel good, not to try to mask insecurities and dissatisfaction with yourself because that will never work in the long run.
- You are allowed to, even encouraged to work in a male dominated field
A lot of STEM fields and beyond that are male dominated and it can be daunting and scary to be one of the few or the only woman in a male dominated field but that is how change is made. When that one person is brave and confident enough in their capabilities to prove all these men wrong, that they aren’t the only ones capable of making things happen.
- You do not have to be the sole cook/chef of your household
It has obviously been a tradition in American society for women to be the sole cooks of their household especially in the past, when men were out all day working. But as times have progressed and both parties may be working, or even if they aren’t, women do not have to feel obligated to cook for their partner. They should have the flexibility to choose and know that is is not their destined position to be in the kitchen.
- Take up more space
Something I’ve noticed being from a big city and taking public transport, men will sit next to you and then widen their legs to take up more space. Women are always taught to close their legs, take up less space, be lady like, almost making us invisible. Research shows that high heels and tight skirts and dresses was not only new fashion but a way to limit mobility among women. It’s a way to keep us still, let men dominant public spaces. But you do not have to take up less space or close your legs, you’re allowed to take up as much space as you please respectfully. You are worthy of space.
- You are not your body or a baby making machine
Simply, you are not your body or parts of your body. You are a whole entity and should be acknowledged for that. There is more to you being a great woman than having a baby, your capabilities are far beyond what your body can do, but rather what your mind can do as well.
- You don’t need to change for that boy or girl
Some people often adapt who they are to the person they like. So if they are into a certain activity, we may pretend or force ourselves to like it. Or if they like girls who dress a certain way then we may do the same. But even if that was the key to scoring your crush, once you’re together, it’ll be hard to maintain that facade. So be authentic and be you.
- You do not have to dumb down yourself or giggle at everything a guy says
I think this is prominent especially for young girls, especially middle school and early high school. Some girls often dumb down themselves as to not intimidate a guy and make it seem as if her mind is bright. I dont know when or how this concept even originated but never be ashamed of your intelligence, just find someone who is as into your mind as you are.
- You are enough on your own
You do not need another human to complete you. People often say they are half until they find their soulmate to make them whole. You are not born half human. You are whole all on your own and that is more than enough for you and the world.
all the love x movesandmountains